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I like to be liked but I’ve seen people ignore me, dismiss me or even seem uninterested. I learned the hard way that not everyone will like you. Your piece brought a period of my life to mind (maybe I’ll write about it someday)

I like being liked but some people won’t like me the way I want to be liked. Selah 😅

Thank you for sharing this. We should never sacrifice our authenticity for validation.

I also love this part, we should be “a people-person rather than a people-pleaser.”

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Sis, thank you for the words of encouragement! I would love to write about that period of your life. Your bowels of wisdom >>>>>🤭

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Apr 27Liked by Adebola Akindele

Funny story. I recently borrowed a book from the library titled ‘The courage to be disliked’ all for me to see your post. The irony yea?😅 there must be a reason why I got the book in the first place and your post is so relatable. I don’t think anyone wants to be disliked. It feels horrible and life sucking. But I’m learning that the less I care about people’s opinions, the healthier I become spiritually, emotionally and physically. There’s just a new courage that’s birthed from not even caring anymore. It’s one of the reasons why I admire Jesus. He understood people’s ‘likeness’ could be fickle but God’s likeness was and is reliable.

Also as long as you’re alive, people will always have something to say about people, and there are just some people who will not like you no matter how much you try. So I’m learning to live with that and accept God’s validation and likeness of me❤️

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Apr 19Liked by Adebola Akindele

I like to be liked! But not everyone's gon’ like me and that's okayyyy☺️❤️❤️

Welldone sissy💐🌹❤️

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Always a joy to have you around, Wunmi 💛.

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Apr 19Liked by Adebola Akindele

Not everyone would like me and that's fine.😊

Well put together piece, sis💛

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Thank you, Tems! Your consistency is encouraging 🤭

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Apr 19Liked by Adebola Akindele

What exactly do I like about being liked

• Having to appear towards the end of Today’s Episode of Quality Time .

This is such a good and relatable Read 🌸❤️God bless you with more Wisdom Debola 😍

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Thank you, Tolulope🤭. Happy to feature you, my darling! Amen to your prayers for me. 💛

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21 hrs agoLiked by Adebola Akindele

Could have as well put my name ? Definitely seeking God’s help to live primarily from His validation.

This was a helpful read thank you .

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Thank you for reading, Jubilee. We all need these reminders every once in a while 💛.

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Apr 25Liked by Adebola Akindele

A very relatable and wisdom filled newsletter.

I learnt so much from this and it’s a great reminder for me not to focus on what people think about me so much that I loose who I am as a unique individual.

Rather than focus so much on what people are thinking, I’ll channel that energy to grow my relationship with Jesus.

Also, if I really understand and apply the lessons I learnt from this newsletter today. Receiving feedbacks and constructive criticism will not be an issue for me. I’ll welcome them and address the issue at hand. Thank you so much Adebola, glad I am in that picture.... I made it!!!!🤍🤍🤍🎉🎉🎉🥳🥳🥳🎊🎊🎊📣📣📣🤩🤩🤩

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Hey girl, that's right! I love how you're planning to do something with your takeaways from this letter. It's encouraging. God bless you for reading 💛.

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Apr 25Liked by Adebola Akindele

This was such a profound letter! I love the mindset reshaping around “I like to be liked”.

Thank you for sharing, Adebola.❤️

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Of courseeee! Thank you for reading, Bimbs💛

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Apr 24Liked by Adebola Akindele

I’m guilty: forgot the headline midway into the newsletter but remembered when you started stating what you wanted to be liked for. I still struggle with a “main character” mindset but better that than think I’m an extra. At least I know MCs have challenges and people who don’t like them but it won’t stop their shine.

Happy birthday in advance, Adebola

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Hahaha. Love the honesty 😆

Thank you for wishing me, sis! You're literally the first person mentioning it over here in the comments 💛.

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Apr 20Liked by Adebola Akindele

I like to mean something to everyone even if they don't mean a lot to me 😭.

Henceforth, I'd like to follow God's roadmap and please him.

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Whoosh! Love this. Thank you for reading 💛

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