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Shittu Isaac's avatar

You know I find this write up very interesting, real, and in most cases relatable. The truth is that, as out of pocket you think you sound, everybody who wants to be something worthwhile in life goes through pressure either we like to accept it or not. Even living in the will of God brings pressure because the devil won't make it easy. Jesus faced so much pressure, he almost ran out of the ring. But grace kept him and that's the lesson we can all learn-God's grace is sufficient for us, and in our weakness then is he strong in us.

Honestly, the pressure doesn't reduce what just changes is our focus. I like to see limitations and challenges in my life as pending testimonies I'd share to encourage people that *I've been there, done that, got the t-shirt and face cap, there is nothing in it that you can't overcome too."

This is not just to pacify you, but to tell you that those expectations and pressures cuts across every right thinking person. And the arm of flesh will fail that's why we don't trust in our ability to meet up to the expectations but in God's ability to keep His promise.

There was anxiety to pass common entrance, anxiety and pressure to even finish those JSS 1 notes that primary 5 did not prepare us for. Anxiety to pass physics or chemistry in flying colours and when you enter the University those things just become stories. Like I can't imagine that got me tripping, especially when I had to deal with financial independence, passing courses you were barely taught, keep friends, school-life balance, maintaining steeze, maintain a consistent spiritual devotion and also write a newsletter as often as you can.

Life is just phase by phase, this phase seems like hell because you want to make the rest of life worthwhile but one way I remain level headed is when I remember going through worse cases and I don't even know how but God did. There were courses I thought would be the end of me in school, now I don't even remember the lecturer's name.

These things pass, be like Jesus and fix your gaze on the Glory ahead. Funny how he didn't even try to act strong, when the cross was to heavy for him he fell, someone helped him, when he felt betrayed he cried to God. He wasn't oblivious to the cross or the shame, He simply endured and despised cos the end is always going to be a funny story and a lesson to learn by those coming after you. It's the value in you that make people have a high expectation for you, God put it there, He'd shine it forth himself. Just keep going

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

I keep coming back to read this since you left the comment a week ago. And you know? You have a point. Actually, more than a point. You left a whole sermon. Really, thank you!!!

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Shittu Isaac's avatar

I apologize for writing another post under your post 😂🙏🏿

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Onwordi Isioma's avatar

This is also a me story 🥺

Especially the top in class (when I was an undergraduate), failed a course, getting married and having plenty money....

You guys Pleaseeeeee.

Thank you Debola for reminding me that it is God's will over people's will and my worth is not based on what others think.

Also sometimes I convert the energy these people give into a positive thrive to do better. I try not to over think but honestly it doesn't work all the time.

Thank you for this value

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

My Isioma, this comment you left really warmed my heart! Thank you so much for reading and leaving me an encouragement. 💛

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Jolomi🍃's avatar

This really hit home. It’s so easy to get caught up in expectations, but your reminder to find worth in God’s plan instead is something I needed. Thank you for sharing. You’re not alone❤️

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Glory's Corner's avatar

Real. So real. For the longest time, academics was what defined me and it was messy when I couldn't get into uni immediately after secondary school because I felt like a failure. Thank you for sharing this!

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

Oh, Glory! I do understand you. I know what that also feels like. God's got us. Thank you for reading. 🫂

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DeeDee Amaechi's avatar

Also... the playlist has some of my absolute faves. Love itt

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

Thank you, Dee >3

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Temitope Kenneth-Jatto's avatar

Prayed for you and sending you hugs 🫂💕

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Abimbola(dara)'s avatar

You are so brave and strong.

Thank you for sharing this with us.

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

Brave and strong, hmm. Thank you for being here, Bimbs. 💛

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Unathi's avatar

You've done it again darling 🥺🙌🏾

I love how vulnerable you've been in these letters and my lesson had been may my validation or whatever I feel makes me not be attached to opinions, unrealistic timeliness, things but in God. May I graft a reality that is in his will and may I be patient enough to wait some seasons out with him

Thank you for a beautiful letter❤

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

“May I graft a reality that is in His will and may I be patient enough to wait some seasons out with Him.” Wow!!!

Unathi, thank you so much. 🫂

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Ejiroghene's avatar

As a pharmacy student, I can relate.

Rooting for you ❤️

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

Aww! I see you. Thank you. We've got this. 🫂

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Odinakachi Nwonu's avatar

Thanks for being vulnerable. Sending you hugs. 🫂

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

Thank you so much, Odinakachi. 🫂

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Hosanna Chigozirim Nnaji's avatar

This is definitely a season we've been called to trust solely in God, My Woman!

God will see us through.❤️💪🏾 God's gat us!

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

My woman🥹🫂. God's got us for real!

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Ayomide Oyinloye's avatar

Thank youuu, for this. The fact that it is so relatable too. I mean, why all of these expectations from people. As you said, it’s God’s will over people’s will.

The Lord will strengthen you and see you through. Sending lotssss of cyber hugs to you🫂❤️

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

My sister!!! You're hereeeee🥹🫂. Thank you for leaving such a heartwarming comment. I'm receiving all your cyber hugs haha. Love you!

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Henry Chibundu Okeke's avatar

Honestly, I am in that moment when words cannot express what's in my heart. But my heart is so full of gratitude to God and mercy for not placing myself in His standards.

Thank you Adebola. I'll be praying for and with you 🙏

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

Henry! Thank you so much. ✨

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Temiloluwa Owasanoye's avatar

Adebola, you are strengthened. The lord is your Joy!

Thank you for sharing 🤍

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

Amen! Thank you, my darling. 💛

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Ede's avatar

Thank you for this 🤍

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

Thank you, too, really. 🥹❤️

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Faith A. Ayodeji's avatar

Thank you for sharing, Adebola. May God uphold you at this time and show you in all the ways man may not be able to how He sees you and how your worthnis in Him alone.

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

Amen. Amen. Faith, thank you. Your words is a timely reminder of how much He sees me. 💛

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