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Olajumoke's avatar

I read the first few paragraphs and I was so ready to disagree. I'm a quality-time person and can't even imagine advocating for LDR. Not in my wildest dreams.😂😭

Thank God, I read till the end because I was so ready to disagree. Reading further, I got to understand your point and I actually agree with most of the things you wrote. Honestly, I don't like people being in my face 24/7- it makes me irritable and LDR’s actually give room for more intentionality. I think of my relationships with my closest friends and we are miles apart yet we've made it work for about 8years now. I never thought of this from this angle and I'm glad I did today.

Thank you for sharing your perspective. You've done well shifting mine.♥️

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

Oh my! I truly enjoyed reading this feedback, Jum-Jum. I guess I could add, “shifting others’ perspective for a living” to my bio LOOOL. Thank you for letting me know how this resonated with you. ❤️

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Hannah❤️‍🩹☘️'s avatar

I’ve always been team anti-LDR but I don’t how you managed to just put me on your team😂

I get it, like I completely get it. And I’m glad I got too see LDR from this point of view🤍

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

Aw! Thank you, Hannah. I'm happy I managed to put you on my team, even for just a bit hahaha. It's cool over here🙂‍↔️

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Itunu Taiwo's avatar

This was well articulated. As much as I love the mushiness of warming up to each other and being together and doing stuff together, there's a part of me that feels cringe when it starts feeling like a lot. And maybe because my social battery tends to run out fast. Loool. I mean I would definitely want my Significant Other to be emotional intelligent and spontaneous and present but a part of me is like...eh, maybe not too much it starts to irk me. lool. I'm very huge on the intentionality so if the LDR makes the heart grow fonder why not? It shouldn't be too long sha to avoid sin creeping in. And I mean when you marry, you'd literally be in each other's faces. I feel like a healthy balance is important. A part of me hopes we'll both have different office spaces in the house so I can focus on my writing and so that he can focus on his work? Lmaoo

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

Sis, you said it! A healthy balance📌. And the part about having different work spaces in the home, oh, I absolutely agree!!! You need to focus on your focus and keep writing us great books! And yes, we will appreciate the cute inspiration from your “S.O” too! Looool☺️🫂.

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Zee's avatar

Yess

Yoy wrote out my thoughts

I feel like there's a yearning that comes with LDR that makes you want to put in efforts

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Felicia's avatar

I think I found the very place that suit me

Thank you for this ma'am

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

Interestingggggg. 😂

You're welcome. 🫂

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Morien's avatar

Found my people!😭

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

Should we tell them how cool it is on this team?😭🙂‍↔️

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Faveey's world 🙈's avatar

This was everything and more😭❤️

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

This is so kind of you to say!❤️

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Aluko Eniola Faith's avatar

Ohh this is everything!

I keep saying I don’t like LDR, but deep down and honestly, it has been a training ground for me and has helped me grow as a person.

Thank you Debola for this 💙

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Tami's avatar

This showing up in my face today is just so timely. My partner and I said our temporary goodbyes today, as our relationship will soon be turning into a LDR. Mixed feelings everywhere lol but we'll be resting on the fact that it wasn’t physical proximity that brought us together and it won’t be what keeps us close!

Like you said “Love built on Christ will stand”

Thank you, Adebola.

~New subbie here!

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Zee's avatar

By the wayyy, do you have a love playlist? I'd love to see itt

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

I do! I'll send you one in your DM shortly.

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Zee's avatar

Okayyy

I'd be waitinggg

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Zee's avatar

This is the most beautiful read.

I've never really thought of it to be honest. But now, I think I actually prefer LDR.

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

Thank you, Hephzibah!🥹❤️

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Temitope Kenneth-Jatto's avatar

This is only okay in a relationship (and it won’t work for everyone) not in marriage oh! Lol. I love that you know what you want though.

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

Best in encouraging me 🥹❤️❤️

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Temitope Kenneth-Jatto's avatar

Awww 🥰❤️

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Afframa's avatar

🫴🏾 😂hold my hand

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

Hahahaaaa🤌🏽

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By_Ishat's avatar

Thank you for writing this

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

🫂🫂🫂

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By_Ishat's avatar

I feel so seen

I’m always pro long distance ❤️

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

My co-team LDR🥹🫂

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Abimbola(dara)'s avatar

I will use that picture for sticker.💀

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

What you know how to do best apart from loving me 😭🤦🏽‍♀️

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Abimbola(dara)'s avatar

Clown.🤡

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Abimbola(dara)'s avatar

Team Mini LDR.😩😩😩

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

Na only your own to different 🌚.

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