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Angel Leonard's avatar

Hey. Thank you so much for sharing I used to dislike hugs a lot too.

Now I think that as life gets tougher I'm more receptive to hugs a whole lot more.

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

I can totally relate to your last statement. Life is already tough, and I'm beginning to see that a hug could make it better 😂

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Geegee's avatar

I actually thought that you were the person looking like the hugged one in that picture! The irony indeed!🤣

But yeah, I can relate to this. Thanks to my friend, hugs are growing on me.

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Ebunilo Chizoba Catherine's avatar

You had to go that roundabout way to tell us that growth is possible, abi? I enjoyed it sha: and I’m glad for you

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

Lmaoo. If I don't do that, who will? Haha. Thank you for reading. ❤️

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Abimbola(dara)'s avatar

I love this comment.

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Moyo's avatar

"Clap for me" 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

Aw, thank you!😂🫂

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DeeDee Amaechi's avatar

I also am not a fan of hugs and physical touch. I prefer when it's done on my terms too. But these days, I find myself holding my friends' hands and hugging them. Especially the ones I've noticed like to be loved that way and the ones I'm extremely comfortable with. Growth is possible seriously. Look at me lol.

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

Girl, you know! Lol. Growth is truly possible. I also love the fact that you mentioned that you noticed some of your friends want to be loved this way and you chose to love them as such. Intentional purrrrr. Love it.

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DeeDee Amaechi's avatar

Serious intentional purrr. Where my man at? Can't he see what I'm doing for my friends?

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Faith A. Ayodeji's avatar

I've grown to be a hugger, too. But even at that, it gets weird when someone I'm not even that close to starts to touch me to communicate a point. 😬

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Adébọ́lá's avatar

Exactly!!! Like, just keep your hands to yourself and talk to me. Or not haha. Thank you for always reading and sharing, Faithy. 🥹🫂

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Sakina Carter's avatar

We clapping for you girl 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

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Bennnieee ❤️‍🔥's avatar

I also wasn’t a fan of hugs and physical touch until I met my friends

But now…

I huggggggg and touchhhhh as much as I can

Mainly because I’ve found that it helps to connect with people

And oh! I found out my hugs are nice 🤭

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Hannah❤️‍🩹☘️'s avatar

I didn’t like hugs either. I liked it but not too much of it, too much of it from one person irritated me somehow.

But I realized as life gets tougher and people leave at unexpected times, I became more receptive or ready to initiate hugs and other form of physical touch from people I love.

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Unathi's avatar

Growth is possible 🥺. I love it here🙌🏾

The honesty and vulnerability

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Isidinma Flowers's avatar

Coming to read this piece again because it made me smile ehhhh

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Goodytwoshoes's avatar

I'm here again, after a not so long while😊.

I'm glad I'm not the only one on this boat🤣. But unlike you, my heart hasn't grown so receptive of hugs - in a different kinda way though.

I missed your works😩, my gifted hands writer.🌹

And thanks for always blessing us.

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Temiloluwa Owasanoye's avatar

Clapping for you sweetie 👏👏

Beautiful piece as always. Ore mi the writer!

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Isidinma Flowers's avatar

So relatableeeeeee

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Isidinma Flowers's avatar

Chai ehhhh

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Abimbola(dara)'s avatar

Glory to Jehovah that you are seeing the light.🫠

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